Pain & Pleasure – the way of life

Let me share with you what my friend had shared with me….

 

उम्र यूं ही गुज़र गई, 

उम्र गुज़रते देख। 

ड्योढ़ी पर बैठा रहा, 

सूरज ढलते देख। 

ता-उम्र मंज़रों में, मंज़िल ढूंढता आया ,

मंज़र ही मंज़िल थे,  मैं यही देख न पाया। 

दो कदम बढ़ाये थे जो, खुद को बाजार में पाया। 

बेमानी, बेमोल चीज़ों को, ऊँचे दामों बिकता पाया। 

यह वो मुकाम नहीं, जैसा मैंने चाहा था,

जो वह था, वह था, मैं यही देख न पाया था। 

कुछ गुज़रते करवाओं से पूछा - 

"किस दर तुम चल दिए?"

वे मुस्कुराकर बढ़ चले, 

"दर वहीं जहाँ पग थम लिए"

अपनी नासमझी को समझ समझ,

असंभव की आस लिए, 

मैं ड्योढ़ी पर बैठा रहा, 

उस पल का विश्वास लिए। 

एक दिन प्रतिबिम्ब में खुद को देखा - 

उजले बाल, चेहरे पर ढलतीं रेखा। 

स्तब्ध ! मैं देखता रहा, 

प्रतिबिम्ब कुछ ओझल हुआ। 

आँखों में अश्रु भर आए,

और दिल कुछ बोझिल हुआ। 

क्या ज़िन्दगी यूं ही बेमानी, बेजानी सी गुज़र जाएगी?

तारीख़ - एक और भी हुआ था - यही याद रख पाएगी ?

फिर प्रतिबिम्ब परिहास से मुस्कुराया। 

और मेरे मन में यह विचार आया - 

किसे ढूंढता है, और क्या पाएगा ?

जो मंज़िल मिल भी गई, तो क्या समय रुक जाएगा ?

अपना ही नाम, खुद से पहचान - 

एक दिन सब धूमिल हो जाता है। 

जो जीते किसी का प्यार, किसी चेहरे की मुस्कान- 

बस वही याद रह जाता है। 

कल और कल में तू क्यों उलझा है?

जो है, आज है, आज तक क्यों न समझा है?

उठ, चल, यही क्षण है, इस क्षण को पहचान ले,

दे किसी को मुस्कराहट, दे दे किसी को प्यार दे। 

देख, 

कहीं उम्र गुज़र न जाए,

उम्र गुज़रते देख। 

ड्योढ़ी पर बैठा न रह जाए,

सूरज ढलते देख।

Wah! Wah! Rupam. Wah – Wah!!!

What an articulation?

Deeper pains of life are expressed in so beautiful words by my friend Rupam Shrimali.

Would suggest that you read these words carefully, may be you will find few points that describes your state also.

Read it few times, you might find these pleasures – pains are like yours.

But…………………..This problem has deeper roots in our upbringing. We have an education system that focuses training and testing our memory; we have society that again has selfish motives, hence pressures are on our brain to get your own benefits from entire system…this leads our brain getting over stretched, while heart remains loose…..the harmonized music of brain and heart is missed.

All this brain training by current education system over activates the logical, rational part of ours.

Visualise a monkey jumping on trees all the time and then imagine if you are riding on that monkey then what will happen to you? Then God is the only saviour. This is plight of most of us after all this brain training and activation.

There is another dimension also that complicates it more and that’s rooted into our emotions.

Our family and social connections create an emotional landscape of our life, which creates a self limitation behavior. This creates a gap between me and my goal, the more we get obsessed with our goal, more distant we find it.

The logical mind operates by dividing and then approaching from all sides, which generally makes it almost impossible to reach the goal.

Mind divides to handle the situation and passes the judgment that we should have started attempting young, now we don’t have that much energy left, so the final depression happens and one finds himself more helpless.

In this situation, Guru only is able to help. He explains the truth and guides to get back to the body consciousness.

This is also an interesting aspect. We have three centers of our life – centre of Gravity, centre of emotions and centre of thoughts. We operate from these three centers.

Simply, you will find that we generally are in thinking state and in our brain;  at times we are feeling and hence in emotional state at heart; rarely we are at our third centre but whenever we are here we are in peace.

The questions faced and the suggestions in the poems are really important to understand, one when gets fed up with monkey mind and starts accepting the natural process, loosens all mental or logical controls and skids down into the heart, where heart generates a music and poetry starts flowing….

The challenge is still one is distant from the self and hence has to take a different course to surrender to self.

The entire life we pursue to seek peace but whatever we do we remain far only….as our doing originates from our thinking or feeling and not from our self. It’s a play by pseudo self - called ego that deceives us all throughout our life. Sometimes the pain of missing peace surfaces, this is when emotions starts flowing. This emotional flow, when expressed in words is the poetry…

Rupam has beautifully worded the inner voice guiding to the peace.

The first and the last step towards self is - live at the centre and the simple technique is to start listening to your inner voice. Listen to its guidance – Live from inside and rest follows…..

Enjoy this life, it’s a game of opposites as was demonstrated by Radha Krishna in Raas Leela. So, just be there and that’s it….

 

There could be difficulty in connecting back with self and hence there are techniques like Ajapa Jaap that acts as a baby step towards bringing about the change. The first change it brings is change in our focus area and we start living spontaneously. The second change is the change in driver set of our life to the Hamsa Guru Paduka. This changes our life to its natural course…

This resets the direction and we start inching forward from Self rather than that pseudo self…..Saadhak realizes the internal change and enjoys life. So, go ahead learn this simple technique from your Guru and practice it…the answers will start unfolding.